| How old am I: | 26 | |
| What is my nationaly: | I'm dutch | |
| Service for: | I love man | |
| Tint of my eyes: | Lustrous gray-green eyes | |
| Hair color: | Thick hair | |
| What I like to listen: | Latin | |
| My hobbies: | Surfing the net |
After the dissolution of my year relationship, I found myself in a unique situation. What would I, as a year-old gay, Latino man living in the Valley, have to offer the dating world? I mean, I had always sensed that aging in youth-oriented Los Angeles, and having the ability to find love in the middle ages, would not be pretty.
First, though, I had to untangle my mangled emotions. Although we had never married, I can tell you that recovering from that relationship was tantamount to dealing with a death or divorce. I sought help from my family, friends and a professional counselor as I wanted to be truly free of whatever damage had been done over the course of the messy breakup.
I wanted to emerge from this as emotionally healthy as possible. I kept to my six-times-a-week gym schedule at L. Fitness, and I also began meditating. I even took up yoga, which I now commit to regularly.
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All these things helped me to heal my battered psyche. Then I began to get that yearning. I understand myself pretty well, and although I am quite content to sit on a rock in the middle of the desert and be at peace by myself, I tend to do better when I have someone at my side. Are you a veteran of L. We want to publish your story. I began to explore. Starting with the apps, I had always heard they were a place in which companionship could easily be found.
However, now I viewed them differently.
I was less concerned with torsos and more with profiles. I found that there are indeed a healthy of people who use these sites to seek out, dare I say, relationships.
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There is something in the anonymity of these sites that makes conversation easy and I have made a of friends whom I regularly chat with. The professional dating sites like Match. Having spent my life as a professional communicator, I have to think I am at least a decent storyteller. I sent more than a few s and received pretty much meager. Now, I am not model material but I am not roadkill either, so I was surprised. Anyone who has certain ZIP Codes in their profile I pass on, as I am very down to earth and suspect I would have little in common with some of the more elite digits around L.
So I look for those who have been in relationships, or who at least seem to be grounded in the realities of life.
More L. Affairs columns. Bars are not an option for me; they are bacterial breeding grounds for insecurity. Dating is so vastly different now. People no longer talk, they text — incessantly.
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You have to understand, I stopped dating before the age of the Internet, so there have been 21 years in which a new infrastructure had been built up that I had not been privy to, but again, I am rallying. Now the rules have changed.
Someone 20 years older than me would be in their 70s, so not the same feeling. I like Coldplay, can still make it up the trails at Griffith Park, have been known to savor a musical or two at the Pantages, and have a very open mind and heart. So the people I am conversing with are younger. When I say younger, I did not plan for a person in his mids to become part of my new landscape for the four months he did — and no, I did not pay for it. I have to give credit to this person, he was the first one in 21 years who got me to open my heart, as bruised and battered as it was.
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It felt wonderful and painful and I was able to experience the Hollywood Bowl through a new set of eyes. We had a lot in common, but in the end, the age expanse made a difference. We spent many a night talking until 2, 3 in the morning, but I get up at 5 a. I remembered at that age, those were common hours to keep.
I also found I had to explain pretty much everything; as intelligent as my friend was, he simply did not have the experience. I made a date with an esoteric 40s guy with a man bun whom I had chatted with for several months. He was great and an interesting guy, but lit up a bowlful on our first date at my Sherman Oaks home. I am not a judgmental person, but I decided this was probably not a good fit.
Dating in your 50s is very freeing; I have absolutely no neuroses about whether the people I meet like me or not, or whether I said the right thing, or if the clothes I wore on a date were the right choice.
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At this point in life, it is what it is. What I am finding is that my lifetime of experience, and all the joys, love, entanglements and, yes, pain, have made me a person of worth, value and strength. And I am finding that that is far more attractive to people than a set of six-pack abs. Affairs chronicles the current dating scene in and around Los Angeles.
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